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The Biggest Obstacle in Your Life & 3 Ways to Overcome It


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I was at the Barnes & Noble recently looking for a specific book in the personal development section and I was blown away by the number of books written to help us change, overcome and improve our lives.

Here’s just a small sample of what I saw:

7 Habits of Highly Successful People

Awaken the Giant Within

The Road Less Traveled

The Power of Positive Thinking

The Happiness Project

YOU are a BADASS – How to stop doubting your greatness and live an awesome life

I couldn’t help but ask myself: With all the self-help/personal development books out there — why are there still so many miserable, unhappy and negative people in the world?

Last week I asked a group I was training to write down all the things they thought were stopping them from changing and living the life they really wanted. Here’s what they said:

  • I’m not motivated enough
  • I don’t have a college degree
  • I don’t have enough time
  • I don’t have the resources
  • I procrastinate
  • I’m too old
  • I really don’t know what I want to do
  • I don’t have the experience I need

THE REAL TRUTH: The only thing that’s stopping you from changing is YOU.

When you understand and accept this fact, you not only can overcome any obstacle, but open yourself up to the limitless possibilities life has to offer. You can read all the self-improvement books in the world — if YOU don’t want to change — NOTHING CHANGES.

You are where you are right this minute based on your desire to change.

The good news is it’s never too late. All you need is awareness, positive energy, a plan and willingness to try.

Are you ready?

If you are, here are three things you can start doing today to change and improve your life:

1. Don’t believe your subconscious thoughts

Your subconscious mind tells you stories that just aren’t true. The real truth is that your thoughts lie and when you believe them it can hold you back from doing amazing things.

The sad part is when you believe the stories, you sabotage your own happiness. But here’s more good news… there are ordinary people just like you and me who make a conscious choice every day to send their stories packing.

I gathered mine up and locked them away a long time ago. Every once in awhile one of the nasty suckers manages to sneak out, but it doesn’t take long for me to body tackle it and drag it back kicking and screaming to lock it up again. It’s not easy — which is a perfect segue to my next life-changing action.

2. Life’s not easy, so work hard

I think there are a lot of people in our society who give up on things because they feel it’s way too much work. These people are usually the biggest complainers. Excuse me, but who said that life was meant to be easy? I didn’t get that memo and if by chance you did, please crumble it up and toss it into the garbage ASAP.

If you’re willing to do the work you can accomplish anything. Just look back at our history. Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times before he invented the light bulb. He kept working at it until he got it right. You can accomplish anything if you believe in yourself and work hard at it.

3. Never give up

Remember how hard Edison worked? He could have thrown in the towel 999 times but instead chose to keep going. Edison never gave up and refused to listen to the negative things people were saying about him.

The only limitations you have are the ones you create in your head. Ignore them (remember your thoughts lie) get the facts, look for solutions and keep moving forward. It may take you awhile to get where you want to go, but if you work hard you’ll get there.

BONUS TIP: I recently spoke with a friend who overcame some major challenges to change the direction of his life. I asked Jerome how he kept going when he felt discouraged and wanted to give up. He said he reminded himself that everyday he had, was another chance to get it right.

None of us know exactly how many days we have left on this earth, so please take advantage of this beautiful gift! When you’re feeling hopeless and discouraged — pick yourself up and keep moving forward.

Now I’d like to hear from you. Which of these 3 strategies do you think can help you most? I can’t wait to read your comments in the box below.

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Thanks for reading and contributing! Until next time….

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  • Wayne Wittman May 28, 2016, 1:29 am

    Lina all three are important but I’m going with number 2, Life’s not easy, so work hard. Hard work will pay off dividends in the end. It may take a long time but if you stick to a plan you will win in the end. I heard a great saying recently when I asked someone if they were having a bad day. The gentleman said to me “I never have a bad day, only bad moments”. That was very profound to say the least. Even though something happens to you it doesn’t last forever. Something will change for the better if you stick with it long enough and work hard.

    All the best!


    • Lina Hollman May 31, 2016, 12:25 am

      I couldn’t agree more Wayne. Thanks for sharing!

  • Gail ellis May 28, 2016, 1:42 am

    Hey Lina….great post…..NEVER GIVE UP is a great tip for everyone! I do believe you can do ANYTHING YOU WANT WITH HARD WORK, AND BELIEVING IN YOURSELF!

    • Lina Hollman May 31, 2016, 12:30 am

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the post Gail – THANKS for contributing!