Do you wake up in the morning feeling unhappy, overwhelmed and like you’re living someone else’s life?
Welcome to the new normal.
Researchers say the average person has 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day.
Add to that the zillion of other things screaming for your attention like –cell phones, computers, tablets, phone apps and Facebook, Twitter & Instagram, just to name a few.
These thoughts and non-stop distractions create a huge amount of chatter in your heads that’s tough as hell to cut though.
It’s hard to change anything when you’re feeling consumed and exhausted all the time and like your head’s about ready to explode.
This constant game of tug-of-war makes it so tough to focus that it usually takes a serious crisis or major life event to bring you back to reality.
WHY YOU DESERVE BETTER
The truth is you have the power and potential to accomplish anything –but your routines, habits and fears stop you from going after the things you really want in life. You can do better.
When was the last time you asked yourself “Am I happy?” and “Am I on the right path?”
It took the loss of my corporate job and a serious car accident for me to silence my mental noise long enough to give these questions some serious thought.
The process helped me find my “right” path and finally get my inner- self in-sync with my outer life.
It also taught me the experiences that test you and make you struggle the most, are the ones that take you to where you’re meant to be in life.
FINDING YOUR “RIGHT” PATH IS A PROCESS
Finding your right path takes time, courage and the ability to open your mind and heart to new experiences and challenges.
Please put your phone, computer or anything else that’s distracting you aside and ask yourself this very important question:
Is my life driving me or am I driving my life?
Here’s what I mean: Let’s pretend your life’s a car — are you behind the wheel driving confidently or letting someone or something else do the driving while you’re in the back seat feeling miserable with no idea of where you’re headed to next?
If this is something you struggle with and want to change, the 6 strategies and resources below will stretch your mind and give you the help and motivation you need to climb back into the driver’s seat and toward the path of your dreams.
- Know your values
Knowing your values is the first step to living life on your terms.
Your values represent who you are and what you stand for.
When you don’t know your values you’re more likely to be with people you’re not crazy about and doing things you don’t like (in the back seat again).
You have a lot less stress in your life when your core values are in line with your relationships, experiences and actions.
Grab a piece of paper and write down your top 10 values. Stuck? Here’s a list to get you started from values.com
- Stay curious
Imagine what our world would be like if not for the curiosity of Thomas Edison and Steve Jobs?
Curiosity sparks energy and innovation and pushes you to do more, learn more and become more. It’s a powerful tool that can inspire you to find your right path and transform your life.
Unfortunately our daily habits and routines stifle curiosity. We are more interested in the here-and-now, than opening our minds to future possibilities and things we’ve never experienced before.
Curiosity exercises your mind. It helps you learn, grow and be more engaged with the world around you. And like running — it motivates and energizes you.
Tap into that energy and push yourself to try new things and your daily rituals will be replaced with adventure and opportunity.
- Become mentally strong
You can’t control what happens to you in life but you can control the way you react to it.
Amy Morin’s book “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do“, will help you to manage your thoughts, emotions and behaviors in a way that sets you up for success in life.
Are you a people pleaser? Amy says mentally strong people know they don’t need to please everyone all the time and aren’t afraid to speak up and say no.
The book offers excellent strategies to help you avoid destructive thoughts, emotions and behaviors that hold you hostage and stop you from going after what you really want.
- Focus on your strengths
Do you know what your natural talents are?
Scientists and positive psychologists say that you can do better and get farther in life when you focus on improving your personal strengths rather than the things you’re not so good at.
It made a lot of sense to me and is one of the reasons I purchased the book “StrengthsFinder 2.0” by Tom Rath.
Doing things you you like and you’re good at not only gives you greater opportunity to soar, but will help you find your path to happiness and success.
The book includes a 200 question assessment that will validate what you know already and suggest ways to grow your strengths so you can take your performance to the next level.
- Make health a priority
My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was five-years-old. She survived the disease and lived to the ripe-old-age of 81. Mom understood the importance of good health and would tell me to take care of myself every chance she got.
Your health is a gift and when you don’t feel well it affects every aspect of your life, including your happiness.
Studies show that a person’s health is one of the strongest predictors of happiness and when you’re healthy you have a much greater chance of being happy.
When you feel good physically and mentally you can deal with just about any challenge life throws your way.
Make your health a priority by eating a balanced diet, exercising, getting regular check-ups, being active socially and not stressing over things you can’t control.
Be sure you get enough sleep and don’t forget to smile!
And keep it simple. Small improvements like going for a 10 minute walk each day or cutting one unhealthy item from your diet can make a big difference in your overall health.
- Have presence
Studies show that self-confidence can make you happier and more successful. The more self-confident you are the more powerful you feel and the more likely you’ll be to welcome challenges instead of running from them.
Confidence is something that I’ve personally struggled with. A few years ago when I was researching the topic for a workshop I was doing, I came across social psychologist Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk on how posture and body language affects who you are.
After viewing her talk I was hooked and have been doing the Wonder Woman pose ever since.
In Amy’s new book “Presence” she continues her conversation by sharing how to bring your boldest self to your biggest challenges and achieve “presence” in every aspect of your life. Find out how to overcome insecurities and channel your power in a more purposeful and positive way.
IT’S YOUR TURN
Which one of these six tips do you think will help you most?
I can’t wait to read your comments below.
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Remember a more positive and happier life is within your reach. It starts by taking small steps in the direction you want to go. I know YOU CAN DO IT!!